A very common forward, does not really make much sense to me... How can I decide my options and priorities on the basis of what the other person thinks or feels... So according to the above saying if a person does not consider another person friend, the other person also should not care back... In that case i feel a human heart seems like a television which can be controlled by the push of a button.
Every person has his/her choice.. so probably a person that I care the most, may not even think anything about me... but does that mean i should also stop caring... and even if this means so is there any tried and tested method to stop caring for a person you care the most.. And then why be so conditional.
Extending it a little further, if of the two friends, one starts having feelings for the other... does the friendship develop a crack/ can things still work out even though the other person has no such feelings what so ever.. And if the relation changes after the person has communicated his feelings, would any person feel free to communicate their feelings?
Th8s and comments are welcome :)
I think the fwd is applicable in cases where one has been hurt in love/marriage...a case of a cheating partner maybe...
ReplyDeleteAlso, the Q asked by you is a tough one to answer...A friendship has to be very very strong to withstand all kinds of pressures and expectations...
Also, if persons involved are mature enough...I don't think the relationship would get affected...
From the Header : If a person finds that the other person is taking him/her just for granted; leave him/her immediately or close the relationship.
ReplyDeleteFrom Second para : If a person is so caring or a person notices that s/he is getting cared by someone; there is no harm/ problem to continue the relationship.
From last para : If between a relationship of two person, one is having soft feelings for other and the other person doesn’t have the same for him/her; the probability of continuation of that relationship will depend upon the behavior of the person who has soft corner. If s/he reacts/keeping that soft corner in the relationship despite of knowing the truth; it should be possible by the other person to close the relationship. If the person doesn’t express his/her feeling again or accepting the answer of rejection as final result and after that his/her behavior doesn’t represent any softness of his/her heart; the relationship must go on.
There is a very thin line between Love & Friendship : if you want to clear the difference then it can be done in a single line…..
Love is (or may be) one way communication but Friendship is always a two way communication system.
You can ditch/ dump your love/ or a person who loves you but you can’t do the same with your friend.
In Love it is not necessary that both of the person having full faith on each other but in friendship they must have.
In Love you can’t share all your top secrets particularly about your past but in friendship, you can.
Scientist says that an average Love life is around 4 years but Friendship goes for life long.
Love starts with happiness, grow with dreams and end with tears. In other side, Friendship starts with faith, grows with more faith and ends with blind faith.
That’s what the truth is.
@ all talk
ReplyDeletethanks for commenting on most posts :) ya maybe the case that you mentioned is right..
@ anonymous
thanks for the comment.. i feel its much easier to put in words than in action.. as in anyone can say that if the person who has expressed is not able to handle post expressing, end it... but the other person also does not find it so easy as at some point s/he has also considered the other person a friend
lil bit difficult to understand ur reply on my comment. can u put in simple words....?????
ReplyDeletea thought worth pondering indeed...
ReplyDeletebut what i feel is if you really care for somebody it would be great if the other person too reciprocate the feelings but if he/she doesnt and you pretend that the same attitude of i-too-dont-care then no matter how hard you try thats not at all possible. A heart that knows love, love always..Saari movies ki ye hi central theme hoti hain:D:D
@ Anonymous
ReplyDeleteWhen u say that if a person has feelings and cannot stay normal friends, it is very easy to say that the other person stop talking, but in actual its not that easy...
@WISHESGALORE
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